There is more than one single indicator for identifying an abuser.  Often it is a combination of many things compiled to reveal the severity.  There are however, many red flags you should learn about and avoid anyone who has these characteristics or habits.

Some of the red flags and warning signs may include, but are not limited to:

  • Verbal abuse used to belittle you, hurt your feelings or destroy your confidence
  • Controls every little thing; having you living on constant eggshells awaiting the next outburst
  • Possessive of you (i.e. who you see, talk to, where you go, what you wear and what you do etc.)
  • Unpredictable or constant mood shifts
  • Destruction of things important to you (i.e. cell phone, jewelry, pictures, etc.)
  • Jealousy of your relationship with others, including family members
  • Draws you away from your family by restricting communication and visits
  • Abuses other family members, children or pets
  • Threatens suicide or harming the children if you leave them
  • Causes fear for your safety if you do not abide by “the rules”
  • Abuses drugs or alcohol
  • Demands access to your cell phone, computer and social media, including all passwords
  • Stalks you & your activities (i.e. calls friends to ask where you are or what you’re doing, shows up where you are without you knowing, etc.)
  • Forces you to do or try things you do NOT want to do (including sex)
  • Wicked temper that can go off at any time or any place, even the smallest of issues
  • Cruelty to animals
  • Forces sex or disregards partner’s unwillingness to have sex
  • Does not allow the use of birth control
  • Inserts blame for everything bad that happens
  • Causes stress at work or school, which may lead to loss of job
  • Controls all the finances
  • Accusations of flirting with others or having an affair
  • Demeaning behavior privately or publicly
  • Embarrassment or humiliation in front of others

Physical violence is not a red flag!  It is DOMESTIC VIOLENCE… no other sign needed to confirm.


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We aim to change the trends of the mindset on domestic violence, by bringing awareness to every adult and teen in the United States.  


HM3 is ready to hit the ground running with 4 advocate team members, thrivers I might add, who are ready to come on board and start assisting on a much needed, larger scale.  Two of these team members are moving across the country to join HM3 and be a part of this impact.  Founder & CEO, HelenMarie has been working with a CPA as well as an attorney for quite some time to make sure everything is legally in order.  Now, we are onto the next stage, which is funding.  Of course, we have upfront operating costs we need miracle donors and paid sponsorship partners to assist us with in this mission as well as the work ahead.  Lastly, we are also seeking opportunities to apply for grants.